When you get something right, it’s very rare that you don’t take credit for it. You’re not shy about it. You step right up there and receive your reward and acclaim. And why shouldn’t you? You did good. Well, I’m afraid the same attitude must apply to your mistakes as well. If you’ve screwed up, the only way you can redeem yourself in the eyes of your colleagues, family or friends is to take unabashed responsibility for the error. You’re eminently forgivable—once you’ve asked for forgiveness. But until you own up to what you did wrong, no one’s going to give you anything but shade.